Demedicalising trans

If trans people are not sick, and not defined by the psychiatrists, what are we? Is it something we are- really of the opposite sex or gender- something we desire, or something we do, transition? Is it about gender roles, or about sex? Is it defined by other people- you know that self-righteous way they have of cornering you and asking if you’ve had your bits chopped off- in a sneaking, sideways manner, not straight out. One asked me if I’d transitioned “with a big T or a little t”. Or the trans groups, by turns expressing delight that we are having operations, or bemoaning the long wait, or the psychiatrists’ gatekeeping. “I know it won’t grow back,” we say. “I don’t want it to!”

The cis police us, and we police ourselves. I remember strong doubts expressed that a “non-op” could be a “true transsexual”, even though she said she had a heart condition and no doctor would anaesthetize her.

What would the cis police think of a trans woman before her op? Possibly treat them as suspiciously as they would treat someone who was Not Transsexual. When someone corners me like that, it feels that it’s grudging toleration on offer, if I am anatomically correct, and torches and pitchforks if not- for, otherwise why ask?

If we are not sick, and we do not need psychiatry, or counselling, or correction so that our gender identity matches our sex, why do we need our bodies altered? Is that what “being trans” means- the desire to alter your body and approximate sex characteristics of the acquired gender?

I wonder if “knowing you are of the opposite gender, or wanting to be of the opposite gender” is who we are, a question of being, or how we explain ourselves, just the words we have learned to use to describe ourselves. “I knew I was a girl when I was six,” we say, but what did you think a “girl” was? A girl, dressed differently, playing different games, going to grow up to be a Mummy who was different from a Daddy. But the cultural differences between the two change over time and the anatomical differences may not be so noticeable to that six year old.

In the Keira Bell case the judges said that at 14 you don’t know what sexual fulfilment would be like, or whether you will want children of your own.

The concepts, the verbal formulae, come from psychiatrists or scientists, observing us like a primitive tribe or a mental illness. They are hammered out in the press, talking of sex changes and giving a stereotyped story of My Transsexual Struggle. We then become jealous of them. If this is the price of continued toleration in society, we want to fit the Rules, and exclude anyone who might not more ruthlessly than the straights do.

Is how we conceptualise ourselves the most important thing, what we do, or what we desire? I would say desire and action- the person, desperate yet terrified to transition, or who transitions. If there are ten times more transitioned people in the UK than there were twenty years ago, this shows that more will transition as we learn about it and see it is possible, and the societal opposition decreases. But then, the conception can create the desire. If the operation is the symbol of acceptability, we desire that symbol, and might imagine we desire it for itself, rather than because the cis require it of us.

Don’t have GRS. If you tuck, there is almost no visible difference unless you are naked. You might find a use for that penis. If we are not sick then we don’t need treatment, including hormones or surgery. Be certain you want the surgery for itself, not as the symbol of True transsexuality. Transition should not be a process involving changes to expression, role, and body, but a series of discrete choices.

In the “stable version” ICD 11, there was a long definition of gender incongruence, involving desire for the other sex’s sexual characteristics. Now that has been dropped, and the definition is this:

Gender incongruence is characterised by a marked and persistent incongruence between an individual’s experienced gender and the assigned sex. Gender variant behaviour and preferences alone are not a basis for assigning the diagnoses in this group.

ICD 11 does not say what, if anything, should be done to such people. Don’t define yourself by what other people demand of you.

Homosexual transsexuals

This is a hard core tranny post. You have been warned.

The term “homosexual transsexual” is used by scientists to refer to a male to female transsexual person who is attracted to men. So it is hate-speech: it refuses to recognise that we male to female transfolk are women. And that is hate-speech: it reserves to the Scientists the right to make the classifications and the judgments, ignoring what we have to say.

To get round that, we coined the words “gynephile” and “androphile” to mean attracted to women and attracted to men without making a statement about the person. This post is about trans women who are attracted to women, or trans men who are attracted to men. Why on Earth would we go ahead with the Op?

I was quite certain that the Op was right for me. I had it after I had been expressing myself female all the time, including at work, for 22 months. When I had it I was quite clear even on the trolley going to theatre that I could change my mind, and I was not going through with this because it was expected of me. And I was quite clear that I would not, that it was the thing I wanted more than anything else.

And after it did not go as well as I had hoped-

So when I read what Zane has to say about operations, about having a pussy even though she is not going to have an operation, having already suffered an intersex person’s forced adjustment to male-

Were they cultural, rather than atavistic, motives, that made me have my penis removed? If I could have been fully accepted as a woman with a penis (or whatever you call it), as myself without an operation, would I have wanted the operation?

That is, can I imagine growing up in a world without “Normal”, without self-consciousness, without Judgment, where people are celebrated for who they are? Then I am quite sure there would be a wide gender spectrum, quite naturally a broad range of gender expression of men and women: there is now. I might be “feminine” with my semen-producing pussy, and it might go better with what people with ovaries usually have.

Well, I am not in that world, and I know I made the right decision at the time. Speculating on whether I would reverse it if I could is meaningless, because that is not a possibility. Were it a possibility I would know whether I was drawn to it. Expressing myself male and using a male name remains a possibility, and I am not drawn to that. Quite the opposite.

Attracted to women and needing to be authentically Me in a relationship, I make love as best I may.