What is it like to be an anti-trans campaigner?
Naomi Cunningham, a barrister, used to run a pro bono charity, matching young barristers with employment tribunal claimants with interesting cases. Now, she is chair of Sex Matters, and devotes a great deal of her time to expanding the rights of anti-trans campaigners to express their anti-trans beliefs, and restricting the rights of trans women to use women’s services, that is, to live our normal lives. It is not fair to suggest that she considers trans inclusion a graver threat to women than poverty, it is simply that her skills qualify her to do far more on restricting trans rights than on any other women’s rights issue.
Lizzie and Marilyn go on Twitter several times a day to hate on trans women- to deny we are women, and claim we are a threat, and read and share tweets to that effect.
Naomi Cunningham had to sit in the same room as Robin Moira White. How awful for her. But, I went to the loo several times last month, in small loos in restaurants and large loos in Friends House, stations and art galleries. I never saw another trans woman in a loo. I only noticed another trans woman in public once, and I am sensitive to trans women. Unless they work with trans women, Lizzie and Marilyn may have similar experiences- seeing one of us is fairly rare.
But despite this, we loom large in their consciousness. They immerse themselves in social media where trans is a great threat to women and children, repeatedly making themselves enraged and afraid. ACA says, “We became addicted to excitement”- these strong emotions, which bear no relation to their actual experience, give them a high. They might not see an actual trans woman for weeks. Still, there are real world effects- Lizzie, who would have voted and perhaps campaigned for Labour, no longer will. The National Conservatives are delighted.
And they hold two things in their mind at once: they are entitled to express their gender critical views, which are entirely reasonable, and most trans women do not have a legal right to be in women’s services. On the other hand, there is an immediate threat to children, and of an invasion, a swarm of violent men coming in to women’s services and the end of women’s rights.
I do not consider “gender critical” views in general are “worthy of respect in a democratic society”. The problem with the Forstater case was that there was very little evidence of what Forstater believed. To believe sex is real is trivial. Anti-trans campaigners believe that trans women could be violent men, pretending, and therefore it is reasonable to fear and exclude trans women. This incitement of fear, and automatic distrust and aversion to a specific group of other human beings seen as a group, is the part which is not worthy of respect, and is easily evidenced, now, by their twitter feeds. They also believe falsehoods which tend to reduce respect and trust for us, such as, most trans do not seek medical treatment, but 26,234 trans people waiting for a GIC appointment shows that is wrong.
Anti-trans campaigners are suffering and so fearful and angry that it makes them act against their own interests. So, I call for sympathy for the anti-trans campaigners, for Naomi Cunningham, Marilyn and Lizzie, for all of them. I would even talk with them and attempt to find common ground, if they would accept my understanding of my own needs. Right now, the hate and obsession spreads. I am frightened. Yet, as I moved through the world last month, nobody challenged me or insulted me to my face. I only notice the ATCs if I go on the internet. It gets our attention by showing us “what is most threatening about the world”, and we- Marilyn, Lizzie and I- cannot look away. We are the same, caught in the same trap. We need to find a way to be allies.
The anti-trans campaigners think trans women don’t need women’s services, and could present as male if we tried. So excluding us causes no real loss, and including us is the end of women’s privacy and rights. Yet in our real world experience, they may not notice one of us for weeks on end, and I don’t get challenged.
How could we work together? We could share our actual experience. Right now, whatever the media noise, or the plans of Westminster or Holyrood, trans women are not a problem for them, and anti-trans campaigners are not a problem for me. From there, we could address our common interests: how do we reduce the culture of impunity for male violence against women? How do we reduce the power of gender stereotypes? I want them to see that I am not a serious threat to them, however the thought of me in a women’s loo makes them feel. I want them to see me as a human being. I offer them the same.