Suddenly disclosed gender dysphoria

Just because someone has only just noticed signs of a person’s gender dysphoria does not mean that it has had a “rapid onset”. A parent might report that the child had appeared happy and gave no sign of gender dysphoria, but the child might have had distress which s/he could not name, or even known their own gender identity for years. A child might suddenly disclose because they have decided to take action on their gender dysphoria, which they had concealed because they did not know what they could do about it. And just because someone has not noticed signs of gender dysphoria, does not mean they were not obvious to anyone open to seeing them. Some children repress their gender identity when they know they will gain only grief for it.

There is the suggestion that teenage children, especially those assigned female at birth, may suddenly decide that they are trans and seek treatment. There is a conviction where there was no sign of it before. Those asserting this tend to find the thought revolting.

Those who assert that “ROGD” is a thing, rather than a name for childhood gender dysphoria, say that it might be a social contagion brought on by suggestion, as some say anorexia can be. There are pro-ana groups promoting anorexia as a lifestyle, though it can threaten health and stop menstruation, just as testosterone might. If transition revolts you, you might be prone to see it as a way of fleeing independent adult womanhood akin to anorexia. These feminists know that womanhood, and fertility, can be very scary. Men come on to teenage girls, follow and assault them, do not take “no” for an answer- only “I have a boyfriend”, perhaps, claiming to be some man’s property rather than being entitled to decide and refuse in my own right- and this is dangerous. Claiming to be a man is a way of escaping that.

So they claim that teenage “girls” are “mutilated and medicalised”, rather than treated. The child wears a binder, which constricts breathing, and craves chest masculinisation surgery (“mastectomy”). This revolts the ROGD theorist. Why should you want a healthy part of yourself cut off? We are sad for women who have to suffer lumpectomy for cancer, and the NHS offers reconstructive surgery. I sympathise. I like my breasts and would not want to lose them. But I can empathise: chest-masc surgery changes the way others look at you, and I can understand someone might want it. I have seen the delight people have in it.

If there were a theorist who believed that ROGD was a thing, a phenomenon distinguishable from other types of childhood gender dysphoria, who was not also repulsed by current surgical treatment for female to male gender dysphoria or gender incongruence, I would be more likely to believe in it.

There is a place for people who want to resolve the distress of gender dysphoria by some means other than transition, hormones and surgery. A patient might explore their personality and character with the aim of casting off restricting inhibitions and accepting themselves. Transition is not the only treatment for people who find “femininity” constraining. However, transition alleviates distress and enables people to accept themselves, in a way they could not before.

Those who advance the hypothesis are revolted by “girls” transitioning. They think the “girls” should be supported into accepting womanhood, and supported in subverting restrictive feminine roles as women. They are not fit to research their idea, unless they can accept that sometimes transition is right for a person. Rather than supporting a teenager in becoming an adult, they want to restrict the way the teenager knows he can thrive.

I am told that gender dysphoria can have a rapid onset, where someone with an intersex condition receives a new hormone treatment. That is not what the transphobic campaigners are exercised about.

4 thoughts on “Suddenly disclosed gender dysphoria

  1. Everyone else knows better than trans people; what else is new Clare. Of course there is no such thing as rapid onset GD. What there is involved the repression of feelings to get by which is what I did starting at age 4 until I could do it no longer. These so called experts slay me.

    Are there people who aren’t dysphoric and think they are trans? Yes absolutely and some of them are screened before making mistakes but not all. Walt Heyer comes to mind here.

    Instead of theorizing bullshit they should help guide trans people to make informed decisions about what to do without judgement. Now that would be something


    • I wish it was as simple as, people who revert were never trans to begin with and made mistakes. I don’t even know about Walt Heyer. He says, now, that his grandmother made him trans, but had he told the same story in the same way to a psychiatrist he would not have had surgery. People remember things differently according to need. I don’t think the psychiatrists are that reliable, or the diagnostic criteria, and trans people revert when transition is too difficult for them, as with my friend whose children refused to let her see her grandchildren if she was dressed female. It’s hard for everyone.


      • It is very difficult for everyone and I find that sort of blackmail disheartening regarding this poor grandparent.

        With Heyer there seemed to be some sort of multiple personality disorder going on and transition must be undertaken with a brutally lucid mind which wasnt his case at all. This is according to his own narrative. A grandmother dressing you up does not make you trans and now he uses his own experience to diss every other trans person’s. Very strange.

        All I know is that no one becomes trans in mid to late life. You are either were from the outset or aren’t. 🙂

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        • On a facebook group today, someone wrote, “I was in denial for many years about being trans, and have only experienced gender dysphoria recently”. I don’t know what she means. People suppress feelings when we find them threatening. I try to imagine, and come up with that she was not conscious of being gender dysphoric, specifically, but of some discomfort as a child. I don’t know what led her to name her discomfort gender dysphoria, if she will transition, or if she is more likely to revert; and if she reverts would that be because she is more likely to suppress feelings and be influenced by others, rather than because she is “less trans” or “not really trans”?


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