Gender is meaningless

Gender is a confused concept. The idea that there are two genders, one relating to all women and one to all men in any sort of meaningful way, either as how they should be or how they actually are, is patently absurd.

Gender is a fuzzy concept. If either “gender” were rigorously defined, it would be plainly unrelated to reality, so it is not.

Gender is a dangerous concept. As children grow up, trying to find who they are or should be, it oppresses them. As we consider another person, using our perception of their sex to try to predict them, as one of the stereotypes we use before we get to know them, it is worse than useless.

It makes some sense to talk about the “opposite” sex, but none at all to talk of the “opposite gender”. Gender might have some value if we could conceive of several, but none if we think of only two. That concept encourages transition, if we imagine that because we are not Masculine we must therefore be Feminine, or vice versa. You should simply be yourself, without the need to cross-dress, leave alone to have hormones and surgery. Having transitioned, you may find that while the concept of “feminine” fits trans women slightly better than that of “masculine”, it is still ridiculous, and gets in the way of self-perception. Before transition, you tried to make a man of yourself, seeking to conform to “masculine”. Now you seek to conform to another ideal, which is slightly better but still not you.

People should be seen as valuable in their own right, as individuals. They should be encouraged to develop their positive qualities and attributes, whatever they are. The concept of gender makes others demand particular qualities someone does not have, or deny qualities they possess.

There is no attribute, quality, virtue or vice which is not equally good or bad whichever sex possesses it.

You may notice this contradicts my post Gender is Innate, published nine days ago. I don’t know. A woman says “I like pretty clothes and power-tools” as if this implied a contradiction, or as if this truth undermined the whole foundation of society, whereas it is a sign of freedom women have. It seems harder for men to express “feminine” interests, and this oppresses both sexes- what pertains to women is shameful for men, devaluing women’s stereotyped characteristics and suppressing them in men. I observe that many people rub along more or less happily with ideas of gender. I know some find it oppressive, but it would collapse if it had no value to anyone.

When I say “Everything in this blog is true” I mean that it contains an aspect of truth, sought as carefully and rigorously as I am able. I feel better able to get glimpses of truth if I can bear to be inconsistent. If I can enter another’s frame of reference I may see truths I could see no other way. If I can argue against my own position I may improve it.

6 thoughts on “Gender is meaningless

  1. Well said. I don’t see the point of gender, not really. We are what we are, and gender so often just allows other people to put a group or person(s) into a box which says, “Ah yes, now I understand you…” whereas, in fact, we rarely have a clue.

    Thank you so much. XXX

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    • Yes. The problem with it is that it undermines my transition: if the “feminine” gender is a mirage, then there was nothing for me to gain by it. So it has given no return for the great energy I have invested in it.

      Either it was seeking some truth which I perceived dimly and erratically, or it was just something I did. A clearly differentiated female interior world which I shared with women would justify transition. That does not exist. I might even get het up at making such a dreadful mistake, and not trust myself to act well or in my own interests.

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  2. Yes, as I have said I very much believe that there is no specific with gender, only a spectrum and one that has been squidged into boxes and which ultimately has led and will for some time lead to people having surgery (I’m reading across posts here as you may guess) in a passionate bid to be accepted for who they are, the ‘they’ not necessarily even being clear to themselves thanks to how society dictates (no pun) they should be. I believe this will change ultimately, and blogs like yours, your words, thoughts, and most importantly how open you are concerning your own thoughts and feelings and also open to changing your mind, listening to others, wanting to know how to be an ally to FTM in much the same many CIS wish to be to both, or rather, one and all to my mind. I hope I live to see it change too.

    Esme Cloud x

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  3. Brilliant. WIsh I’d read your blog ages ago – then when I was accused of transphobia the other day for saying basically what you say here, I might have felt I was on the right track rather than delete my post and all the replies in confusion. I think you would not consider me transphobic. I am doing my best to understand all the threads as they are applicable in 2018, and it is bloody hard work. I really appreciate this post, more than I can say, actually. Hx

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    • Dear Hazel, I fear some people would call me transphobic. The theory that trans women have women’s brains (some would even say built to run on oestrogen not testosterone) justifies some people in their transition. I feel transition is a reasonable thing to do even if it is not true, a response to the culture rather than something based in biology. I also don’t think we should call anyone well-intentioned transphobic.

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