I am Queer. “Queer” is almost purged of prejudice: in the Universities, people do queer studies, many of us call ourselves queer, though I have met men who have been bullied and assaulted with the word. I want the big tent, including everyone, for nobody is “normal”- a woman who was insistent to me that she was Not Lesbian-
oh, you poor thing, having to have sex with heavy, sweaty men-
has more recently told me that she was thinking of experimenting.
I want to include as many as possible. I don’t know the difference between bisexual and pansexual, but pansexuals do. So stop growing the abbreviation. LGBT is recognised, but does not include everyone. There are far fewer trans folk than gays- four thousand gender recognition certificates in the UK- but T deserves to be in, because for everyone it is a gender identity issue: nobody fits the stereotype “man” or “woman”, but queers fit it less than most.
Intersex, or Disorders of Sexual Development? Is having physical differences different from having mental differences? If they feel it is, then it is; but trying to identify with the Normal people means always having to put on an act, never being able to be yourself; it means that for everyone, not just queers.
What about those extremely feminine men with masculine women? They are heterosexual, but hardly stereotypical. Some of them keep very very quiet about it, and we don’t even have a name for them. Bring them in.
The other Q is “Questioning”, which means most teenagers. A is for Asexual, and Ally- so all decent people are in. So “Queer” means everyone. Welcome to the big tent.