If I do stuff and nothing happens, what’s the point? I got this wonderfully elegant admission of failure and argument for despair on Kiwifarms, where they laugh at people. Well, indeed. I mess around on my blog, and watch recorded TV. I only don’t fit the “living in my parents’ basement” part of the cliché because my parents are dead, and I am a bit old.
That last job. We thought we would open our doors and people would come rushing in, because they always had: in Oldham I used to arrive at 9am in January in the rain and find people queuing outside for the doors opening at 9.30, in the hopes of not being turned away. We simplified the service we gave drastically to cope with the demand. Yet almost no-one wanted my particular service, and I would sit idle, writing my diary or reading TVTropes on the internet. I did try some marketing and building relationships with potential referral agencies, but to little effect. With a string of failures over six years, I despaired and gave up, and am still given up.
No, I don’t want to apply for that job in Edinburgh. I don’t want to move to where they have not had a Summer and people are in their winter clothes (Frances reports) to take responsibility again. Even though I can see it is a good choice from limited options. I don’t want to go where my family are where I might try to re-establish contact, or might not.
I don’t practise the piano because of the amount of work necessary, and even when I did mistakes crept in. Aged 23 I could play Rhapsody in Blue from memory, and now I make mistakes with Ludovico Einaudi. Well, I have the time to practise, and I don’t.
Dunno. That meeting was good. I don’t quite get the man, whose reserve might be even greater because of my way of letting it all hang out, but at least we are working together.
I cycled thirty miles on Tuesday, in three hours. It is a beautiful circular ride, on country roads mostly with very little traffic, and rolling rather than hilly, though some of the inclines are a bit tough for me. It is the furthest I have cycled this century, in a day. I maintain fitness and increase my ability to get about.
I notice small, incremental achievements caused by my action. I am completely lacking in confidence: my first question is always “How am I wrong, here?” which when in balance may make me usefully flexible and now puts me in a funk. Notice all the achievements. Notice all the positives.
Clare Flourish 
Dunno, you sound quite confident in lots of areas many a time Clare but perhaps because you’ve “mastered” choice you do not see it as confidence. For instance, to me when you say you don’t want to go back to…re-establish connections or not…means you’re confident with where you are, which is a good thing – to reach a point where “home” is where we are is the ultimate to me, at least when it comes to “=is the grass greener over there, back there…” 🙂
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Unfortunately, it is not that I find the grass particularly green where I am, but even less green elsewhere.
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Ha, the “greenness” varies with “seasons”, but as we get older and wiser and more comfortable in the skin we’re in – variance becomes less visible, hence confidence underlies it all I think
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Yes. The bit I cannot escape, whichever field I am in, is me. I am more comfortable: it feels (more on this tomorrow) that I accept rather than second-guess my own responses. Variance becomes less visible, matters less. Yes.
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